BEING ALONE WAS NEVER AN OPTION ...

Hello everyone.

Hope you all are safe amid the pandemic. Take care of yourself and your family members.

Today's blog would be the continuation of our last day's blog. In case, you haven't read it yet, here's the link:-

https://0live-laugh-love0.blogspot.com/2021/06/being-alone-was-never-option.html

Let's get started with today's blog.

After all, why do Deep Rooted Friendships matter so much(contd.)?

HELP US RESOLVING OUR DILEMMA

Let's discuss an example to make the point more clear.

• Ever been stuck in that phase of life where you are confused about whether a person you are in romantic love with is actually worthy of becoming your life partner/boyfriend in the future?

Be honest with yourself while answering this question. Whom do you first consult in this case and when did you actually get a fruitful solution to this problem?

For sure, they might be your close friends who gave you a good suggestion regarding your personal life. There may be many random friends popping out of nowhere and would tell you that the opposite person is right for you but only your true friends would give you an honest answer. It's because they know you inside-out and they also know that people do neglect some of the red flags of the opposite person while in love. So they prevent you from creating any blunder by giving you an honest review/answer.

BUILDING GREAT STUFF TOGETHER

Often we all get separated from our true friends based on the stream we choose for a future career. You should consider yourself absolutely lucky if your true friends belong to the same academic background. 

Let's discuss an example to make this point clear.

• Imagine you and your true friends are enrolled for the CSE course in the same engineering college. After a certain point of time, you all can work together on starting your own company revolving around the core areas of CSE. Doesn't that sound exciting?

You obviously can't start your company with any random friends out there because your mentalities simply won't align with each other and that startup would be doomed for failure.

A GREAT COMPANY FOR YOUR FUTURE CHILDREN😝

Your true friends would obviously stay in touch with you for the rest of your life.

So why not give your future child the golden opportunity to have a great time with his/her so-called MAUSI/MAUSA😆. At least your child would get a place to relax and chill and prevent himself/herself from your scolding😆😆.

Hope you liked today's blog.

Do let us know your viewpoints in the comment section.

Good Night!!

BEING ALONE WAS NEVER AN OPTION

Hello everyone, 

Reconnecting with our audience after a long time😉. Hope the blogs are adding some positive value to your day-to-day life.

Ever hesitated to discuss worst nightmares with your friends in your colony while being a small kid?

Ever hesitated to discuss your secrets with your friends while you were kids?

Obviously NO!!!.....Right?...So after you have grown up, what exactly stops you now from that same style of attachment with your so-called friends?

The answer is pretty simple.

ABSENCE OF A DEEP CONNECTION WITH PEOPLE WHOM YOU REFER TO AS YOUR FRIENDS.

Our last blog depicted the true meaning of what deep-rooted friendships actually are. In case, you haven't yet read it....Go and have a look.

Today's blog would be about WHY DEEP ROOTED FRIENDSHIPS ARE IMPORTANT FOR ALL OF US AT THE END OF THE DAY?

So let's get started.

BEING THE TRUE VERSION OF OURSELVES

Why simply act as a person which you are actually not just to fit in a friend circle to uplift your impression in society. Instead, Be the way you are and search for friends whose vibes match with yours. This eventually would give you mental peace and stability.

• Imagine smoking every single day with your so-called upper-class friends just to increase your standard in society while your inner conscience hinting you to abandon smoking.
• Imagine going with your close friend to the nearby PAANI PURI stall and spend some time on quality discussions with each other and your inner conscience in turn is actually loving it.

Now, answer for yourself as to which scenario you are in favor of?

TRUE FRIENDS ARE NO LESS THAN YOUR SIBLINGS

After a certain age, you would realize that sharing each and every piece of information regarding your life with your parents isn't simply worth it. Broadly there are two reasons to justify the previous statement.

• The generation gap simply creates a sort of conflict of interest between you and your parents. Your ideologies simply don't match with theirs and can't blame them for that.
• Our parents eventually are becoming old and sharing each and every piece of our problem with them simply keep them in a state of continuous stress. Why simply give that sort of hardship to our parents?

Instead, focus on creating friendships with those people who would understand your pain/sorrow and would be there by your side to care for you and giving the practical solution to your problem.

Today's blog was short and it will be continued the next day as well. 

So Stay tuned and do let us know your viewpoints about this blog in the comment section. We would be more than happy to read your opinion.

Till then, Good Night!!!

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE FRIENDS?

Hello everyone.

Finally blogging after a long time😀. Feeling joyful and overwhelmed😇

Still in contact with your friends after you left school?

Still in contact with your friends after you left college?

Still in contact with your colleagues from your past company?

Probably NOT.......Right?😏😏

Before starting today's blog, would like to reassure all my audiences that the blogs of this month would be very insightful and would help all of you till your last day of life. So requesting all to read the blogs whenever they are updated. 

Today, would write about what deep-rooted friendships really mean?

Each one of us has always referred to our batchmates either in school or college as our friends without actually realizing what was a true friendship all about. 

Friendship is a wonderful bonding with two or more people irrespective of their age where each person would be comfortable talking to each other on topics well beyond the academics or professional life.

The concept of true friendship is even more vast and difficult to elaborate using mere words/sentences.Still we would try our level best to explain what a true friendship or a deep rooted friendship is all about. So continue reading!!

Let's start by asking a few questions to our audiences😊 

• Are you comfortable talking on any random topic with your so called friend ?
• Does your so called friend judge you about the general viewpoint you have about life or so ?
•  Do you actually feel happy and satisfied in presence of your so called friend ? 
• Do your so called friends laugh and mock you like hell at your weirdest jokes but still would love to listen to your bad jokes ?
• Do your so called friends take out enough time as much as you dedicate for them in a day ? 

Be brutally honest with yourself while answering the above questions and we guarantee that you would understand what the purpose of this blog was all about.

Without delaying any further let's get straight to the point.

If the number of " YES" is greater than the number of "NO" for the above 5 questions, then it's quite probable that you are with those people who genuinely care about you. Your friendship with them is bound to last forever no matter in which part of the world they are right now!!!!!!!

Deep-rooted friendship is that level of connection between two or more people where all the members very well realize that no matter whatever extraordinary situation arises in the future

1. Their friendship is never gonna end. 
2. They won't seek explanation in case any member behaved a bit weird coz they understand each other right from the core of their heart
3. They would be those same idiot creatures they used to be a couple of years back.
4. They would be there with you in any of your hardships.

If you don't have any close friend with whom you can be the true version of yourself, it best to become a dog lover😇😇

Hope you liked today's blog.

Let us know about your viewpoints in the comment section.

DON'T BOAST-THEY AREN'T INTERESTED

 Hello everyone.

As kids, we have always longed to share even our small success stories with all our friends.....Right??😏😏. That's not bad coz we as social animals need to vent out our emotions-be it happiness or sorrow.

But as we grow up over time, situations around us change drastically. Suddenly few of our friends no longer seem to take interest in listening to our stories of achievements. Ever wondered what can be the possible reasons behind this strange behavior of people around you?

Today's blog would be about WHY ONE SHOULD NOT ALWAYS BOAST ABOUT HIS/HER SUCCESS STORIES which would be described by giving a practical and logical explanation without any form of bias.

So, First, let's begin by discussing the possible reasons as to why few people no longer seem to be interested in our achievements.

• As we grow up, competition in our professional life rises as a result of which many can't simply handle that amount of pressure and tend to perform badly in their academics or career. This eventually forces them to seclude themselves from those who are succeeding.

• Few people are of the opinion that life is all about race so they get disappointed when any one of their friends outperforms them and this eventually makes them develop the bad habit of Jealousy/Hatred towards those people.

• Few people get some sort of internal happiness or satisfaction when their work is praised by their faculties/bosses and the moment they observe that someone else is performing better than them and getting praised for his/her work, the feelings of jealousy/hatred emerge.

• Few people are only focused on their self-growth and development as a result of which other's success stories simply don't make any difference in their life.

The above-mentioned points are some of the most important reasons why we shouldn't always boast about our achievements to everyone.

Let's now share our viewpoints as to what implication does boasting about your success has in the long run in someone else's life as well as in your life.

• The opposite person may start becoming very anxious after listening to your success stories which in turn disturbs his/her focus on work. This is especially true if the person's academic/career performance isn't that good compared to yours.

• You never know if the opposite person may be dealing with clinical depression and narration of your success stories simply makes him feel more worthless than before and his health condition may deteriorate further

• The narration of your success stories to the opposite person only makes him/her get more jealous of you and this actually creates an aura of negative energy around you (Sounds a bit philosophical😜)

• Wastage of your precious energy by narrating about the achievements to someone who doesn't bother. The opposite person may not even give you valuable input regarding your success stories.

So you will have to decide for yourself as to with whom you would share all your success stories/achievements. Be wise enough.

Hope you liked today's Blog.

This blog finally marks the end of this month's main Blog Label - Dealing with jealous people

Next month, We would be unravelling a whole new set of blogs focussing on a different topic.

So stay tuned!!

TRY IT ONLINE

Hello everyone,

We hope that the readers are receiving some valuable insights from our past blogs which eventually will be helpful for them in the long run.

So let's start with today's blog.

Ever stuck in a situation where your batchmates/colleagues are simply not worth spending your time with and various reasons can account for this particular situation to arise?

• Your mindset doesn't match with them
• Your level of thinking is much higher than them
• You are surrounded by people who have always been jealous of your success or achievements.
• You are an introverted person

Today's blog would be about 

How you can use different social media platforms in an optimistic way to connect with people of your choice worldwide?

Writing the names of the social media platforms won't help you all in any way. Instead would be describing what steps to follow exactly to connect with people to the best of your potential

Instagram

• If you are interested in drawing/painting, you can follow different pages on Instagram corresponding to your art of interest so that you can connect with the admins of those pages as well as learn something new
• It is a pretty good app to connect with your old friends who aren't there around you right now but you all have good bonding.

Twitter

• This is one of the best apps till date for making connections where people actually post mini-blogs on a varied range of topics.
• You can simply follow those people's Twitter pages, read their tweets, post replies, and also connect with them via chat.

Suppose you are more interested in discussing the literature related to philosophy but people around you hate philosophical discussions. In that case, you can create a Twitter account for yourself and follow the accounts of those people who tweet occasionally on Philosophy. You can either initiate a chat with that person personally, reply to his/her tweets, or can even retweet his tweet which basically means sharing his/her particular tweet on your Twitter account.

• You can actually read the viewpoints of the different world leaders. You name it and you would find almost all world leaders like Elon Musk, Bill Gates, Satya Nadella, etc. on Twitter. This has a very powerful impact on your life because you never know when one of your replies to any of the world leader's tweets may seem awestruck and they would like to communicate with you.

LinkedIn

• This is a very good app for college students, fresher's and working professionals to connect with people from their respective fields around the globe.
• This app is not always meant for job hunting. It has got much more benefits.
• It provides you a platform to become parts of groups where members of that group can have a discussion on a particular field of your interest
• You can get to know a lot about upcoming webinars and attend them as per your requirement and clear your doubts if any from the person holding that webinar.

Hope you liked today's blog.

SAY NO! WHILE YOU STILL CAN

Hello everyone.

Exam season haunts all of us. Be it a guy who hasn't studied anything till the last night of the exam, someone who is brushing up the old topics, or someone who has revised everything.

Academically bright students have always been surrounded by selfish or jealous people all around them and their presence gets noticed more often during the exam season😆😅 as they want their doubts to be cleared by those bright students😏.

But let's flip the coin and try to understand the hardship of the bright students during this exam season.

• The person is yet to read the last few chunks of topics all by himself/herself as he/she simply doesn't want to depend on anyone for group studies
• While the person is reading those last topics, his/her studies get interrupted as someone just calls him/her to clear the doubts
• The disturbance that these bright students face becomes more prominent in hostels when his/her batchmates are knocking on the door 5-6 times a day just to clear the doubts.
• The mental peace and stability of the bright student is completely disrupted during this period of incessant disturbing

Now many of you might be considering the above-stated points as quite rude and being self-centered.

So, let's clear this misconception first.

The above points don't apply to those people:-

1. who clear all their doubts from his/her academically bright friend at once 
2. who once in a while comes to clear his/her doubts
3. who always helps you whenever you require his/her help

We hope that you all can figure out that this blog is not meant for criticizing people instead we are trying to portray the actual facts so you all become aware of what exactly is morally acceptable and what isn't acceptable.

So as now you know that academically bright students be it in schools or colleges, do have a tough time during the exam season, we would be suggesting few very simple tips especially for them so that their mental peace and stability is retained.

1. Don't give your handwritten notes to someone one day before the exam just because they haven't studied anything.

1. Try switching off your phones or keep them in silent mode so that you don't get distracted because of your friend's call every now and then to get his/her doubts cleared.

1. Choose one specific time when you would clear all the doubts of your friends rather than clearing them throughout the day. This would help you better concentrate on your studies during the exam season.

1. Never ever clear someone's doubts while you have your meal. Have the food peacefully rather than stressing your brain by clearing the doubts.

1. If you are engaging with someone in a group study and you find that the opposite person is more focused on discussing his/her doubt topic rather than equally focussing on everyone's doubt topic, its better to back out from that group and opt for self-study

1. If someone still keeps on disturbing you, you better say " NO, I CAN'T HELP YOU".

Remember, at the end of the day when you would score pretty good marks, the majority of the people won't even come and share some quality time with you and instead, they would be busy criticizing you or avoiding you so don't ruin your studies just to help the other person. 

To sustain in this world, you will have to become a bit self-centered.

Hope you liked today's blog.

BEING GOOD-BEST WAY TO DEAL WITH BAD PEOPLE

Hello everyone.

Finally back after a long break😁

Ever learned about Newton's Third Law of Motion which states that EACH ACTION HAS GOT AN EQUAL AND OPPOSITE REACTION?

Might be wondering as to why are we even asking this question to our audience?

Chalo, Let's break the ice.

We discussed few strategies in our last three blogs to help our audience deal with people around them who have always been jealous of their success/achievements. So today also would be discussing a simple yet important strategy that would help you in dealing with those people and in turn retaining your mental stability.

Now the majority of us have a huge tendency to take Newton's Third Law of Motion very seriously regarding their professional as well as personal life. We often tend to believe that if someone is jealous of our success and approaches us only when he needs some sort of help from us then we too are not supposed to help them in any possible way and instead we would embrace their downfall. 

This sort of attitude eventually placed you too on the same plate as your jealous friend/colleague/relative. In that case, nothing differentiated you from that person. There's one common Hindi sentence " PAAP KA BHAAGI BANNA". Hope now you understood what we were trying to portray.

SO DON'T FOLLOW THE NEWTON'S THIRD LAW OF MOTION IN THIS SCENARIO. 

Instead, be empathetic enough and share your knowledge whenever possible with those people who have always been jealous of your achievements.

Let's discuss few simple tips to show empathy:-

• Guide the person in the best possible way whenever he/she approaches you for help in a particular field where you have already succeeded.

• Be polite with those people and occasionally interact with them because you never know what that person might be dealing with at present

• Don't be reluctant to share your handwritten notes with those people thinking that those jealous people don't deserve my help. Sharing your notes with them won't reduce your knowledge in any way and of course, they too would shine in their career

• Maintain a formal relationship with your jealous relatives. After all, they are the closest people to your parents and you have got a blood connection with them.

Always believe that each and every person who has done something wrong with you would eventually realize his/her mistake at some point in time and your empathetic gesture towards those people would simply Fastrack this process of realization.

Hope you liked today's blog. Let us know your viewpoints in the comment section

PRECAUTIONS WHILE ENTERING INTO THE REAL WORLD

Hello everyone.

So we are again back with our weekly dose of eye-opening blog that is so very relatable to your daily life. 

Today's blog would be about 

As school students or students in their initial year of college,How to exactly figure out people who are actually jealous of your success and try to maintain a specific distance from them.

Before getting started, We would like to say that this blog is not meant to promote hatred towards any person. We just want that school students be made well aware of these harsh truths of life to handle such situations calmly and retain their mental peace and stability.

So let's begin.

DOES YOUR FRIEND SOUND QUITE JOYFUL/FRIENDLY ONLY WHEN HE/SHE REQUIRES YOUR HELP?

If yes, then it's a red sign and you should analyze this type of behavior as soon as possible which in turn would give you the strength to deal with these people.

DOES YOUR FRIEND INVITE YOU TO HIS/HER CASUAL PARTIES, OUTINGS, etc.?

If no, then it's a red sign and this clearly should give you an indication that this friend can not be a suitable person with whom you can be completely free and share all your stories. Be aware!

DOES YOUR FRIEND IGNORE YOU QUITE OFTEN?

If yes, then it's a red sign, and this should give you an indication that the opposite person can't be a close friendship material

DOES YOUR FRIEND OCCASIONALLY TALK/TEXT YOU IN THIS PANDEMIC TO KNOW ABOUT YOUR WHEREABOUTS?

If no, then it's a red sign. This question is a bit tricky. It's not required to get a call or text from your friend every week or so. The point is that if the opposite person genuinely wants to maintain a friendship with you then he/she would occasionally interact with you to know if you were fine and doing good. This is basic humanity.

SO YOU READ THE ANSWERS TO ALL THE QUESTIONS SO WHAT NEXT?

The Simple answer is to:-

• Try to distance yourselves from those people to some extent so that you retain your mental stability
• Try to just maintain a formal friendship of Hello/Hi and abstain from sharing your personal experiences/stories with them coz they won't pay any attention to them and you would simply waste your energy in narrating those stories
• Be bold enough to say NO to those people who constantly seek your help to get their shit done.
• Enjoy your own company by engaging in various activities like developing new hobbies etc. in case you find that the maximum number of people around you are selfish/self-centered or jealous of your success.

It's true that the answers to these questions are quite rude but simply can't help it coz this is what the real world is all about. We just want that our audience is well aware of these facts so that they can make better decisions in their life in the coming years.

Hope you liked today's blog.

Do let us know your viewpoints as well in the comment section.

BEING HAPPIER ALONE - THE KEY TO AVOID SEEKING OTHER'S VALIDATION

Hello everyone,

Finally, we are back after a long time. Hope you got some valuable insights from our last day's blog. 

For those who haven't read the last day's blog, click the link below and kindly let us know about your viewpoint as well.

https://0live-laugh-love0.blogspot.com/2021/05/building-self-confidence-key-to-get-rid.html

Today's blog would be about 

How to create your own source of happiness rather than relying upon your friends/colleagues/relatives who have always been jealous of your success or achievements.

So Let's get started.

• Laugh whenever you get a chance

Since our school days, we have always been taught that Laughter is the best medicine so there isn't a necessity of explaining the importance of laughter in promoting happiness and well-being. The more you laugh, the more your body secretes happy hormones like serotonin.

• Develop a new hobby

Now, this may sound a bit vague to some people. So let's give an example. Suppose you are very fond of singing so you showcase your talent in every singing competition of your school/college/workplace. But due to the current Covid-19 scenario, public gatherings have drastically reduced so you are simply stuck at home so you thought that why not learn painting. So you sit back and watch some good video tutorials on YouTube and start learning painting. This is how you got rid of your boredom and no longer require anyone else to become happy from within this pandemic.

• Try to learn more about spirituality

Spirituality has got nothing to do with religion. It's just about exploring what is your ultimate purpose in life. Do immense brainstorming during this pandemic and come up with a valid and logical explanation/reason as to what your life is all about. As you would be keen on engaging only yourself in this mindful thinking, you would no longer require other people to give you the happiness you require in these uncertain times.

• Try to surround yourself with those people who really care about you

Throughout this pandemic, you might have worked hard to impress those who barely care about you or those who only approached you when they required your help in some or another way. Let's break this vicious cycle and start spending quality time with only our family members, close friends/colleagues who have been with us on this wonderful journey of life till date.

                         

           

Hope you liked today's blog.

Do let us know your viewpoints in the comment section.

BUILDING SELF CONFIDENCE - THE KEY TO GET RID OF YOUR JEALOUS FRIENDS

Hello everyone!

Finally, we are back with a whole new set of blogs regarding a different topic.

This month's blogs would be meant for addressing a very basic problem which we all have faced or have been facing in schools or colleges yet people don't exactly know how to tackle the issue.

It's about HOW CAN YOU DEAL WITH THOSE PEOPLE WHO ARE ALWAYS JEALOUS OF YOUR SUCCESS/ACHIEVEMENTS?

Today would be discussing the first step that you can take forward in addressing this issue.

BUILDING SELF CONFIDENCE

At some or other point in our lives, we all have faced a situation where our own friends/batchmates/colleagues had started ignoring us or even stopped talking to us just because we achieved some form of success solely from our hard work. 

At the school level in India, it may be because you could crack competitive national level examinations like JEE-Advanced/NEET/NTSE/KVPY/NSO/ISO/ IMO, etc.

At the college level in India, it may be because you could get a chance to publish your own research paper, starting your own company, cracking competitive exams like NET/GATE/GRE/GMAT/NEET-PG/AIIMS-PG, etc.

Sounds familiar to all of you, right?

Now the simple answer to address this issue of jealousy would be to ignore those people. But do you actually think that it would be too easy to start ignoring those with whom you were so close at one point in time? A big NOOOO

Instead, you can start working on yourself so that there's an automatic boost in your self-confidence.

• Learn and understand the weak topics of your subject/field.

Suppose you could crack the JEE-ADVANCED examination and got admission to the Electrical engineering branch of one of the IITs of India. But deep within you know that your knowledge in thermodynamics isn't up to the mark. So instead of lamenting on the fact that your school friends got jealous of you because you cracked one of the toughest examinations in India, start learning the thermodynamics topics in very much detail so that no one ever would get a chance to comment on your weak point in the future and also your mind would be distracted from those bad emotions.

• Always ask questions

The more doubts you clear from your faculties or friends, the more likely is that your knowledge in the particular domain would increase exponentially. Your increment in knowledge would eventually help you build your self-confidence and help you stand out from the mainstream crowd.

• Attempt to take an activity that you have always considered as tough/impossible

Suppose you are quite good at Maths but can't learn even one sentence of Biology. My suggestion would be to sit occasionally and read few lines from the biology book of any of your school or college friends. Once you gather some good amount of knowledge, you yourself would realize that your confidence has got boosted up like anything. At one point when you were even afraid to define what a cell is, now you would successfully be describing cells to your friends who hate Biology😆😆

                                                           

Hope you liked today's blog.

Stay tuned for many such exciting blogs in the coming days which would aim to address your daily life problems.

Good Night!